How do i obtain a death certificate belonging to the deaceased father of my minor child. The vital records office wont give me one because we were not married. They state that a family member has to order it but they took everything and will not give me one for our smaller children. We lived together when he passed and were together for 11 years but that is not recognized. He passed away in PA while visiting. The funeral home cant order one without the permission of the family. They will not give permission. What do i do and where do i go?